12 Reasons Women Don't Date 'Nice Guys'

If you are a guy reading this, you have probably noticed that, instead of opting for a nice and calm partner who would treat her right (you), the girl usually chooses a 'bad boy'. If you are a girl, then you probably are wondering why you are attracted to and end up with a man who treats you badly. We've tried to come up with sensible reasons why this happens, but you are very welcome to add some new insights on the matter in the comments!

1. Not real. Nice guysare too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they're a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don't trust that. Bad boys "keep it real."Nice guysdon't want to upset the apple cart.

2. Respect. No one respects a doormat.Nice guysdon't set boundaries or make any real demands. Abad boydoesn't let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can't respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.

3. Predictable. Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they're attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable.Bad boysare always a challenge.Nice guysare never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge.

4. Mother Nature. Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it withbad boys. They think their love will save them.Nice guysrarely need to be saved.

5. Fixing. Nice guysdon't usually need to be fixed.Bad boysusually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can "create" the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they're busy fixing someone else, they don't have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

6. Genetic wars. Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes.Bad boysare sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they're not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guysare sending a message that they don't think their genes are good enough, so they won't misbehave.

7. Fear of intimacy: If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with abad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. Anice guywill eventually want a commitment, and that's scary.

8. Low self-esteem: We don't feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don't think much of yourself, thebad boyis simply reinforcing your negative belief. Anice guyis treating you in a way you're not familiar with.

9. Sex. Women feel anice guywon't be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think anice guywon't be able to take control and get the job done. Abad boycomes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.

10. Hot. Have you ever seen abad boywho wasn't hot? They probably wouldn't be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn't look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as anice guy, she means, "He's not hot."

11. Charm. Nice guysdon't always know what to say and are sometimes at a loss for words.Bad boyscan be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

12. Protection. Historically, men have protected women - physically and otherwise.Bad boysgive the illusion of being able to protect women, while withnice guys, women aren't so sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either thebad boyor thenice guycategory. Theideal manis neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose thebad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

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